Day 184 - Dream Crusher

February 8th, 2010

Those of you following my 365 day blog entry challenge have probably figured out that I am a constant seeker. Most of all, of happiness. Most recently, I have made a conscious effort to surround myself with people that make me feel good about myself. I’m not saying that I need validation from others to determine my self worth. I know that resides within the codependent spectrum and true happiness comes from within (blah blah blah.) But being in the presence of authentic good energy is something to take note of. When you’re with people, simply ask yourself, “Do I feel good?” Ask your body. Do you get a pit in your stomach? Sometimes intuition speaks to us more rationally through our body than through our head. Plain and simple. If someone (whether deliberately or not) tries to take you down a notch…watch your back. Maybe they’re doing the best they can. But that’s not good enough for my blog readers. We’ve been through so much together, you’ve gotten into my heart and you know who doesn’t want you hurtin’? This one.

Let’s take a 180 on day 184. Do you think that you’re one of those people who aren’t making people feel bad enough about themselves? Perhaps that’s your life’s purpose and your joy, good energy and competence are getting in the way of hurting people that you care about. There are a few key areas that you need to be really focusing on harder in order to make people feel insecure: Their work, friends, family, health, love life, spirituality/ personal growth and financial.

Let’s break this down:

• Work – Make sure that your loved one or friend knows that they chose a career path with a dead end. If they get any sense from you that there is the opportunity for advancement, there could be an increase in self esteem and you have failed as a dream crusher.

• Friends - You can really sucker punch a person by saying, “The only reason people spend time with you is so they can feel better about themselves. Your glaring failures are the gifts that keep on giving.”

• Family – Tell them, "I've spoken to your family and they are one step away from whiting out your face from the family portrait from Grandma’s 90th birthday."

• Health – If they’re not a smoker, make it clear to them that their lifetime around second hand smoke is sure to kill them. Then tell them they have the right look for the “Living with Herpes” poster. Then try to high five them.

• Love life – Tell them that their significant other is married, in need of a green card or president of the "Al Roker Fan Club.”

• Spirituality/Personal growth – If the person that you’re trying to take on is dabbling in spirituality, just tell them that it is very common for insecure people to seek solace by joining a cult. Then burn them with incense.

• Financial – It’s very important that you keep a person in constant fear concerning their financial status. Questioning their investments and reminding them that they won’t even be approved for a Capitol One credit card is a good place to start. I also suggest taking a look at their W-2’s, shake your head and say, “Well at least you have unemployment for one more week..oh you don’t..that blows