January 5th, 2010
A lot of my blog entries around this New Years have revolved around the idea of releasing people and circumstances that no longer serve us. This is so much easier said and typed in my 365 day blog entry challenge than putting into action. I promised to be honest with my readers. I haven’t exactly practiced what I preached in the last few days, I want to “recommit” to detaching from the clutter on my path and make room for my power, security and as Frank Costanza says, “Serenity Now!” We’re only on the 5th day of the new year so I feel like I have a window to restart my resolutions. If it were the 6th day...I’d just wait until next year and dedicate 2010 to bad decision making.
Sometimes it’s time to cut the cord to those scenarios, things and individuals who at one point might have added value, laughter and sometimes pain into our lives. Sometimes we make the metaphorical cut and then choose to revisit it. It’s familiar. Ultimately, I’ve found that the outcome will generally turn out the same and prove that our initial gut feelings about that and who we should say “buh bye” to deserves to be listened to. Life is filled with catalysts that tempt us to say, no scream, “I will revisit what I want to revisit. Fuck the Red Flags. Fuck my ‘knowing place’. Fuck my intention to use the word ‘fuck’ less. So there.”
I usually end up depleted and disappointed that I knowingly re-dabbled in something that does not synchronize with my moving forward. I would compare it to a vice that offers up distraction when I really need to be focusing more on my own life.
So how am I going to implement my releasapalooza into 2010? I’ll start by rereading something my mother sent to me a few years ago. It’s given me a lot of peace and I wanted to share it with you.
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.